Daesy

Being a bad friend means not caring about her. You care, obviously, so you're not a bad friend. You just might need to work on how you deal with how you care, and how you act upon it. Some people have a hard time coming up with the simple solution for whatever reason, but you can help her realize that or help her improve it a number of ways. If you're too patient (or too forgiving or her ignorance) with her, she may never learn, and I think maybe you realize that.

I'm sorta the same way as you, Dae. I'm brutally honest sometimes, and I say shit in ways that I don't think are that mean at the time, but others may perceive it that way. I've been working on it, and I've been getting better, but I'm not perfect. You're aware that you might sometimes sound mean, and all you need to do is think ahead of time before you say something. Eventually, you'll be able to be effectively honest and not brutal. Don't worry. As long as you realize what you're concerned about and you want to change it, you can.

Thanks G. I just feel real bad and i've been working on being there for her and stuff. I dont wanna be a horrible friend.

The light at the end of the tunnel is that you know what needs to be worked on. So you're a little... blunt? She may even take your comments lightly, though I shouldn't deter from the bigger picture here. Careful wording is beneficial throughout life.

I suppose shunning her is quite bad, but again at least you know you're doing it, so you've the opportunity to work on that. Cliché, I'm sure, but time really can heal all. Time and consideration anyway.